How men and women think

Today afternoon I received this mail from a friend asking me about my opinion about what a gift to her friend's fiance could be. The question and answers got to an interesting level and I decided to post this exchange here after seeking permission from her. This is how the conversation proceeded.

My friend:

"One of my friends is going to meet her fiance. He is of your age. She needs ideas of what to gift him. He is sober and likes traditional things like you. As far as what she has told me, his nature matches with yours. So tell me your ideas of any gift you would like to receive. :D

It's very urgent. So please tell me by tonight as per Indian time.

Cheers."

Prasad:

What's his nationality? Since you are sitting at across seven seas, I get this doubt! :D
Anyway, for sake of a quick answer I assume your friend is in India and her fiance is Indian. :-)

• Let her not buy an expensive gift.
• It can be something which he can keep with him or on the work table. e.g. pen, pen-set, pen stand, a photo frame (without photo or with a photo of his parents/family). Frame without photo will give him a subtle hint. He will invariably put her photo there. :D
• A greeting - handmade - does wonders.
• I also think of a ready made greeting with a personal message. Without a personal message, it may become mere a formality. Bigger the message more the positive impact!

Let me not confuse you with too many options. So I conclude. Wish your friend all the best on my behalf.

Warm regards"

My friend:

"wowwwwwwwwwwwwww :D

Sure. Thanks a lot.
By the way, just curious... why not an expensive gift? I told her get an expensive leather wallet for him. :D"

Prasad:

"Buying an expensive gift might give the guy impression that the girl is trying to show off her wealth, especially when the girl's family is better off financially than the guy's family. It will be a big turn off. I mean at least for me if I am pushed in such situation. Any way, the intentions, innocent or otherwise, become very clear by seeing how the girl presents the gift. :-) If the guy is convinced that there is no hidden purpose behind the expensive gift, he will accept it gleefully; he'll accept rather anything that comes for free. But I guess it is very subjective. :-)

Wallet itself is not a very expensive thing. Then wallet is not a gift I am very much fond of. Though I gladly received it when my sister gifted one to me.:D See, guys can be like that too!

Before that she had found my wallet in a weathered condition and had not sifted through it, thankfully so.

PS: This is becoming an interesting piece of article. Can I post it on my blog?"

My friend:

"Yes, yes! Sure!! :D Actually I have some more doubts since this very much reveals how men and women think.

For our subject, the guy lives in Delhi but is damn rich. My friend is from middle class. She says that she doesn't want to impress him an all, but gift him something which he will cherish for a long time. He also has told her, it seems, that he likes old things, like antique stuff. She is also thinking of a hand watch pretty much like the one Gandhiji used to have. But I influenced her with my wallet ideas. She is also thinking of the photo frame now. :D Her Mom suggests a shirt. :D Poor girl! But yes, you can write a blog post about this.

It's interesting to know how men and women think and also to know how men from different age group think. I guess you are from the next generation to me and my generation guys have different tastes as much as I see."

Prasad:

"Correction: I belong to a previous generation than that of yours. :D

Given the relatively humbler economical background of the girl, I believe she should not at all buy anything that is expensive for him. For once, the idea of an expensive gift for a rich is too much to afford for a middle class girl. Something like Rs 5999 for an Italian leather wallet! Middle class person will think of it as an obscene price. But given the situation of the girl, she will not find it that high and will try to stretch her finances and will end up in buying. Will that impress the guy? I am not sure. I believe a gift with a very personal touch, a gift which the girl has actually spent time with will be most valuable to the guy. The guy will remember it and preserve it for its shear simplicity.

Shirt is a common gift. There is a purpose behind gifting cloths to the would-be son-in-law which is to offer something that is utterly essential and also is very intimate. Cloths fulfill the purpose by fitting close to the body and also covering them. A kind of abstract idea. It is a very good one but is a common one. Well off guys have a lot of shirts, Ts, jeans at their disposal and they don't care for more unlike girls, who will be swept off their feet if they are presented with a sari or a beautiful dress. I don't want to label any of such inclinations good or bad, but this difference exists for sure. The shirt with other dress material can always be presented to the guy after the marriage."

My friend:

"Agreed. :D Perfect! :)"

I must thank my friend for allowing me to post this conversation here, which I have done before posting this and also am doing it here. Thank you! :-)

eka mulaachi goshT

गेले अनेक दिवस डोक्यात एक कल्पना घोळत होती. ती म्हणजे दुसरी तिसरीत असताना अभ्यास न करणे, व्रात्यपणा करणे आणि त्याचा परिणाम म्हणून बाईंकडून किंवा सरांकडून रागावून घेणे अथवा छड्या खाणे, ही नित्याचीच बाब असते. हो, हो! माझा स्वत:चाही अनुभव कमी अधीक प्रमाणात असाच काहीतरी आहे. मान्य करायला काय हरकत आहे! तुमचा काय वेगळा होता काय? असो. तर मी म्हणत होतो की असे असताना शाळेबद्दल थोडीशी संमिश्र भावना लहानपणी असायची. त्याबद्दल दोन ओळी लिहायच्या असा विचार मनात घोळत होता. काल रात्री त्याला मूर्त स्वरुप द्यायचे ठरवले आणि त्या 'दोन ओळी' लिहून पूर्ण केल्या. त्या अशा...

एका मुलाची गोष्ट

ती पाहताच माझी शाळा
हृदयी जो धडका भरला
जणू बांधची वाटे फुटला
उरलेला धीरची सुटला

कारण की आठवते मजला
काही घोटाळाची झाला
गणिती पाठची दिधला
बाईंनी सोडविण्याला

खेळ-बाहुल्ल्या मधुनी
करण्याचा राहूनी गेला
नाही कारण द्यायायाला
काही उपाय नाही उरला
उरलेला धीरची सुटला

तो इतिहासाचा तास
तिथे सनावळी अनेक
पण स्मरणी नसेची एक
पडे प्रसंग समोर बाका
वर्गी गनिमाचाची धोका
हुरहूर वाटे मजला
उरलेला धीरची सुटला

दिले व्याकरणाचे पाठ
म्हणी घोका हा गृहपाठ
दिसे गुरुजींची छडी ताठ
म्हणती डोके हे की माठ?
आता तिच्याशी माझी गाठ
कसे उत्तर द्यावे त्यांला
प्रश्न भलता अवघड बनला
उरलेला धीरची सुटला

तोवर मज आठवली
ती देशपांड्यांची मनुली
अन वळलेली पाऊले
अलगद अशी थबकली

थांबूनी तेथे क्षणभर
शाळेकडेची वळली
तशी छडीची नी बाईंची
आठवण मागे सरली

पण हाय घातची झाला
वर्गाच्या दाराशीच
गुरुजींची पडली गाठ
ते पटकन झाले पुसते
अभ्यास करितशी का रे?
का हालवितो मुंडी नुसते?
का मुखीचा चंबू झाला?
मग मार असाची मिळाला
वाटे नकोची कळो कुणाला!

पण मनात मनुची गोष्ट
करी छडीचा घावही मस्त
असे म्हणून आत मी शिरलो
नकळत बाईंशीची भिडलो
मग क्रुद्ध बाईंनी केला
माझ्या पितरांचा उद्धार
समोर दिसला मजला
दिवसाचा भागाकार

कोप-याकडे मी वळता
सभोवार नजर ती फिरली
नजरेसच नाही पडली
ती देशपांड्यांची मनुली
कुठूनी बुद्धी सुचली
आणि शाळेवर मी आलो
झाला मोठा पश्चाताप
वर मनुचा राग अमाप

धरता धरता अंगठे
अश्रूंचा झाला पात
बैठका ही काढीवल्या
अहो मोजूनी त्याही सात
सारी पोरं फिदीफिदी हसली
इथे आमची स्वारी रुसली

मनु होती काल म्हणाली
आणीन हलवा उद्या डब्यातूनी
आणि ताईनी दिली तर
दोन मोरपिसे वहीतूनी

आज ती आलेली नाही
हलवान पिसे ही नाही
वर होई कानांची अन्
तळहातांची लाही लाही

थोड्या अवधी नंतरी
बाकावरी मोर्चा आमचा बसला
तिथे पिटपाट जनू फुदकला
कानी लागोनी हळुची म्हणाला
छकुली पहा ती लेल्यांची
बोलाविती आहे तुजला

तोवरी छोट्या सुट्टीची
घंटा ती घणघणली
आज डब्यात जम्मत आहे
धावत येता म्हणाली छकुली

ती अन् मी अन् जनू
बाहेर पाणी प्याया निघालो
भागाकारातील बाकी
नकळत विसरून गेलो
नकळत विसरून गेलो

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Lessons from Purana

Purāna are the holy scriptures in the Hindu philosophy. They are collections of numerous stories about lives of different people or Gods. Each of them suggests one or more lessons about the life. Each mortal being is expected to keep these lessons in mind at ever juncture of his life. But if one asks what exactly is the sum total or the gist of all the lessons from Purāna, then he can be told that:

अष्टादशपुराणानां सारं व्यासेन कीर्तितम्।
परोपकार: पुण्याय पापाय परपीडनम्॥

अर्थात्
महर्षी व्यासांनी सर्वांपर्यंत पोहोचविलेल्या सर्व अठरा पुराणांचं सार केवळ दोनं तत्वात सामावलं आहे.
दुस-याला मदत करणं हे पुण्य आणि दुस-याच्या पीडेचे कारण बनणं हे पाप.

In English,

Only two sentences can sum up the eighteen Purāna by Maharshee Vyās.
To help others is the divine deed. To be the source of trouble for others is the sin.

My portrait photography

I have uploaded some portrait photographs in the album on picasaweb. These photos are taken by various cameras ranging from the basic VGA camera phones to the digital SLRs over a period of a few years. I have tried to catch the expressions of the people around me as candidly as possible. I have not tried to set any particular criterion. But certainly these are the photos where I have applied an extra thought while clicking. You can watch the photos as a slide show by clicking on the thumbnail given below. I will keep uploading newer portraits in future.

khel khel mein thaa ek raajaa

Shri Mangesh Padgaonkar is one of the most celebrated contemporary poet in Marathi Literature. His poems usually have a touch of humor and a philosophy towards life; that is of living it well and to its fullest. He also has composed some serious poems and his भातुकलीच्या खेळामधली is one among the top. This poem is immensely popular among youths and veterans alike. This poem was immortalized by the voice of Shri Arun Date and the music by Shri Yashwant Deo. Many of us grew listening to this Arun Date's song, as we referred to this poem, without much pondering over its intense meaning. Since when I have understood the meaning of this melodious song, I have felt the desire to translate it to either English or Hindi language. In the evening, when I almost decided to take up the task, I realized that, with my present mood, I had preferred Hindi over English for this particular poem. I felt that I would convey the feelings in the poem more easily in Hindi. While doing so, I have taken the liberty of using different expressions than those used in the original poem. But I have kept the theme same as the original every where in the poem. As I conclude my preface, I hope to have given justice to the poem to the best of my ability.


खेल खेल में था एक राजा और एक उस की रानी,
अधूरा रह गया खेल रह गयी अधूरी एक कहानी

राजा कहता 'मैं तो हूँ तेरे प्रेम का प्यासा भूखा
जुड़ी हुयी है मेरे भाग्य से तेरे हाथ की रेखा'
यह सुन के क्यों आया रानी के नयनो में पानी?

रानी सोचके कहती देखते दूर दूर का तारा
'नहीं है मैंने सोचा हो कल दूजे नगर का फेरा'
किंतु राजा देर से समझा गूढ़ अटल यह बानी!

राजा पूछे उससे 'क्यों दो जीव मिलते हैं?
खिलने से पहले ही क्यों कुछ फूल बिखर जातें हैं?'
इन प्रश्नों का कोई उत्तर दे नहीं पायी रानी

क्या रानी ने छलके आंसू जाते नगर से कुछ दूर?
क्या राजा सह पाया सदमा देखके सपने चूर?
समय के साथ हवा में फहली एक उदास विरानी

खेल खेल में था इक राजा और एक उस की रानी,
अधूरा रह गया खेल रह गयी अधूरी एक कहानी

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राग : वृंदावनी सारंग (नादवेध)
मूल मराठी कविता के संगीत के आधार पर गायी जा सकती है |
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bhatukalichya khela madhali English translation interpretation
मंगेश पाडगांवकर

ChoTese jeevan - Madhushala

'Chotese jeevan' from madhuṣālā by Harivansh Rai Bachchan

सुमुखी तुम्हारा सुंदर मुख ही मुझको कंचन का प्याला
छलक रही है जिसमें माणिक रूप मधुर मादक हाला,
मैं ही साकी बनता मैं ही पीने वाला बनता हूँ
जहाँ कहीं मिल बैठे हम तुम वहीं गयी हो मधुशाला |
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छोटेसे जीवन में कितना प्यार करूँ, पी लूँ हाला,
आने के ही साथ जगत में कहलाया 'जानेवाला',
स्वागत के ही साथ विदा की होती देखी तैयारी,
बंद लगी होने खुलते ही मेरी जीवनमधुशाला |
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कवी हरिवंशराय बच्चन (मधुशाला)

Sarvātmakā Sarveshwarā - English interpretation

'Sarvātmakā Sarveshwarā' was written by noted Marathi poet V. V. Shirwadkar alias Kusumāgraj. This poem is a prayer which urges the supreme being for the enlightenment and upliftment of one's self and it is rendered by Kach, the son of Bruhaspati, on behalf of Devayāni in the play "Yayāti āNi Devayāni" (1966). The play is based on a famous tale from Mahābhārata. This prayer is a fallout of an incident as portrayed in the climax of the play; when Yayātee, having lost his youth and vitality due to a curse by Devayāni, is lying weak and pale on the ground. Kach urges Devayāni to reconcile her anger and in turn makes her agree to forgive Yayāti and to give him back his youth. Kach prays:

सर्वात्मका सर्वेश्वरा
गंगाधरा शिवसुंदरा
जे जे जगी जगते तया
माझे म्हणा, करूणा करा ||

आदित्य या तिमिरात व्हा
ऋग्वेद या हृदयात व्हा
सृजनत्व द्या, द्या आर्यता
अनुदारिता, दुरिताहरा ||

The prayer is an invocation and in the play it is rendered as the sanjeevani mantra. I have tried to interpret the poem in English prosaic form as it is the best I could arrive at. I am aware that it is difficult to call the lines typed below as verses. Never the less I have made every effort to be as conforming as possible to the original meaning of 'Sarvātmakā'.



Oh, you the one, who is infinitely wise
One, whom each mortal being worships
One, who bears holy Ganga upon his head
Oh my magnificent and divine Shiva, I pray to you.

I am a small element living in this universe
This universe is your kingdom and you are the ruler
You are the one who owns all its living creatures
I pray to you to look at them, have mercy at them
They may be doing good, they may be doing bad
Own them, and their ignorance, and save them.

Today the darkness has surrounded this universe
Oh Shiva, how can you see such sorrow and the plight?
I pray to you to be the Sun to show me the light
Enlighten me by teaching the principles and values of life
By the way of reinstating them in my heart
Give me the ability to do good and see good
Give me the courage, the strength and the power
And in turn make me a virtuous living being.

Oh, you the one who has conquered the evil
And the irrationals and the selfish and the cruel
Oh, you the one who has always sided with the good over the bad
I pray to you.

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शब्द: वि. वा. शिरवाडकर (कवी कुसुमाग्रज)
संगीत व स्वर: पं. जितेंद्र अभिषेकी
राग: भैरवी
नाटक: ययाति आणि देवयानी (१९६६)

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